One of my dreams is to stand up on stage and tell an audience why having a label is not necessary, but first, I’ll state why here.
First off, I’m going to ask you a question. Do you like tea, coffee or both? If you drink tea, you don’t look at those who drink coffee and see them different to fellow tea drinkers (unless you’re joking around). There is no need for a coffee drinker to sit down with their family of tea drinkers and tell them that they only drink coffee. So why do we do that when it comes to sexuality?
Of course, it was natural for humans to be shocked when someone liked the same gender. It was seen as unnatural, people were scared to come out. But that was hundreds of years ago. It’s 2017, teenagers shouldn’t be scared to tell their friends and family that their ‘different’, they shouldn’t need to tell them at all. It’s not going to affect your brother in any way if you like a different sex to him.
I want you to think. Is it possible for you to think you’re 100% “straight”, but then come across someone of the same sex in 20 years and think “wow, I am attracted to this person”? Yes. That is very possible. Therefore we shouldn’t limit ourselves to one label. By doing that, we’re forcing our brain to believe that looking at anyone else sexually is wrong. But if you are ‘label-less’, it would still be a surprise, but it wouldn’t be seen as wrong.
People seem to forget that having a label is just an option. Like having 3 meals a day is just an option, or going to school is just an option. Because most people do it, people believe that they have to stick by these fake rules of society and make an official label for themselves. This, for example, means that celebrities feel the need to create ‘coming out’ videos, because their fans all think that this celebrity has and needs a label. But they don’t need a label.
So, with that said, I’m am official me. I do not have a label, I’m not going to stress over ‘finding out who I am’, I’m going to take on every day as it comes at me.
I am attracted to people. Enough said.
If you disagree or are confused with anything that I said, I’d love to hear from you. Comment down below your thoughts. Keep it friendly though, we’re all entitled to our own opinion.
Have a fun life! 🙂
I’ve realised that my past few posts have been rather negative. So I am going to share with you all of the good things that have happened to me in 2016.
Let’s start with the most important: GCSE’s. The exams themselves were torture, but the feeling of finished each one was amazing. Not having to go to that lesson anymore and crossing off them lessons on my timetable. But of course, the most important of all would be the last exam. My third Physics paper. The thought that I never have to do science ever again. Leaving the exam room, getting my bag and signing out at the school entrance for the final time was a sensational experience. I hated school. I never looked back. I never said goodbye to anyone. They didn’t care, I didn’t care.
Then there was results day. I was absolutely certain that I failed maths and all sciences. I was dreading opening the envelope as seeing the D’s and E’s. But to my surprise, I saw B’s and C’s. Of course I was a little disappointed that I didn’t get any A’s or A*’s. Especially when the head of English basically garunteed me one. But the fact that I passed everything filled me with joy! I couldn’t quite understand how I passed maths. It must have been the pages of 1 markers because I’m sure I failed the longer ones. But at that moment, I knew I was getting into the college I always wanted to go to.
That leads on to the long summer break. It was the longest time off education I’ve ever had since I was a baby. It was amazing, so free. I was home alone a lot. As you know, I like that. I watched episode upon episode of Pretty Little Liars, I played with my dog, I burned all of my school books. And when I went on holiday with my family, I went on my first suspended rollercoaster. It was great. But sadly, a few weeks afterwards, my grandad passed away after multiple strokes. But let’s not talk about that.
After the long break off, I started college. I was nervous but excited. My first day was great, I was with my friends, we laughed, we learned. The next day wasn’t so great, I didn’t like my media class very much (but it turns out I now really like media. It just wasn’t a great first impression.) and I didn’t like photography either (I still don’t, but I can cope with it.). But I really like English Language, my teacher is very kind, the people on my table are hilarious and the overall atmosphere is great. I have also been able to do a lot more exercises since joining college as I walk along the river a lot.
There have been other great things too, like getting a new computer, making new friends online, discovering new YouTubers to watch (and something’s chat with), and sending a letter to my role model, Josh Hutcherson, who replied with a signed photo after I thought I’d sent it wrong.
Just remember, although you may been going through tough times, there is always something to be happy about. The glass is half full.
Have a fun life! 🙂
Here we go:
1: I live in England
2: I own a Jack Russell
3: I’m oddly obsessed with the RMS Titanic
4: I take Media Studies, Photography and English Language as AS level and A level
5: I have an older brother
6: I have a younger sister
7: My favourite movie is The Hunger Games
8: My favourite game is Minecraft
9: I have no label
10: My favourite YouTuber range from Stampy Cat to Miranda Sings
11: I don’t like tomatoes
12: I have social anxiety
13: I hated school
14: I passed all my GCSE’s
15: My favourite TV show is The Big Bang Theory
16: My favourite actor is Josh Hutcherson
17: I tried sending him fan mail but I did it wrong
!!!! UPDATE: IT TURNS OUT I DID IT RIGHTS AND HE SEND A ‘SIGNED’ (it was autopen) PHOTO BACK. THANKS JOSH!!!!
18: I go to a theatre club
19: I have been in 8 of their shows so far
20: I can dance (ish)
21: I lip sync like a pro
22: I can ‘crack’ my eyelids
23: I would like to act in a horror movie
24: I like being alone
25: I am a pro ‘awkward dancer’
26: I have long eyelashes
27: I love hoodies
28: I don’t smoke
29: I share a room with my brother
30: My favourite holiday is Christmas
31: I’m slightly OCD
32: My favourite animal is a dog
33: I have my breakfast a night
34: I believe in ghosts
35: I believe in aliens
36: My favourite music genre is Musical
37: In year 4 I wet myself on stage
38: I’m scared of clowns
39: My favourite number is 12
40: I don’t drink alcohol often
41: I would like to go to Canada
42: I would like to be an actor
43: I have one brown eye and ones greeny-brown eye
44: I’m an animal lover
45: I’m for equality
46: I am prone to spelling errors
47: My favourite emoji is 😋
48: I hate spending money
49: I have size 8 feet
50: I need the toilet
Have a fun life! 🙂
Yes, I would call myself Heteroflexible. The term that means I am attracted to both genders, but I am mostly straight and I would not date/marry the same sex.
However after further research, I came to realise that there is another term which means a similar thing:
You can probably guess what it means by reading it. But if not, it means you are sexually attracted to both male and females (would have a sexual relationship with them), but you’re only remantically attracted to the opposite sex (would marry/date/fall in love with them).
I know, they are basically the same thing. But some people say they are different things. Some people say that Heteroflexible means you would only have a physical relationship with the same sex if you were drunk, curious etc. But some people think it just means the same as Heteroromantic Bisexual.
And then, of course, there are the small minded people who say that they both are just closeted versions on Bisexual.
Well let me tell you something. It’s not easy for someone to just label themselves something they are uncomfortable with. Yes, they mean you are attracted to both sexes in some way or another, but for some people, Bisexual just doesn’t feel right and probably never will. These categories allow individuals to share who they are without feeling like they are being too general.
In conclusion to this rant: Bisexual is a very unspecific, general term. There are more precise terms like the ones above that make people feel more comfortable.
Anyway, rant over…
So what do you think? Are they the same thing or are they slightly different?
Have a fun life! 🙂
Since coming out to myself as heteroflexible, I have notice that a lot of people are against the term. Some say we’re just biphobic or in denial. We’re not. Heteroflexible means mostly straight. No one is 100% straight or gay. So in other words, everyone is Heteroflexible or Homoflexible.
Another thing that people say about us is that we are bi curious. In a way that is true. But bi curious is kinda like when someone wants to try being in a gay relationship, and after that they chooses who they are. Heteroflexible people know who they are, they are Heteroflexible. And yes, it is a real sexuality.
If we were given the choice to either label ourselves or not, I would choose not to. We are all human and I don’t understand why we should be grouped in a way like this.
Why should we be worried to come out to our loved ones, when it doesn’t even effect them in any way whatsoever.
So in conclusion, Heteroflexible/homoflexible are sexualities, everyone is a little bit of them (if we had to label ourselves).
Sorry that this is such a short post but it had to be said.
Have a fun life! 🙂
Ok ok. So in my last ‘my sexuality’ post, I stated that I am straight. Which, in a way is true. However after much more research, I found out who I truly, truly am.
I am Heteroflexible.
Yeah I know it’s a mouthful. But I really do think that this is who I am. It is basically the verge between straight and bi. From Wikipedia, the definition is:
“Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual orientation that is considered to distinguish it from bisexuality. It has been characterized as “mostly straight””
So in that case the only other person I ‘know’ who is heteroflexible is my role model, Mr Josh Hutcherson. He also considers himself mostly straight. This makes me feel much more comfortable saying this because a celebrity has come out saying it and has been accepted. So why can’t I do that same.
By calling myself hetroflexable, I am not saying that I agree with labels. I’m only calling myself Heteroflexible if I had to label myself. If not, then I’m human, just like everyone else.
Now for the confusing part:
What do I put if the options are Straight, Bisexual and Gay?
I’m pretty sure this will be my last post about my sexuality. But I’m happy I could share my ‘travels’ with you.
Have a fun life! 🙂