Yes, I would call myself Heteroflexible. The term that means I am attracted to both genders, but I am mostly straight and I would not date/marry the same sex.
However after further research, I came to realise that there is another term which means a similar thing:
You can probably guess what it means by reading it. But if not, it means you are sexually attracted to both male and females (would have a sexual relationship with them), but you’re only remantically attracted to the opposite sex (would marry/date/fall in love with them).
I know, they are basically the same thing. But some people say they are different things. Some people say that Heteroflexible means you would only have a physical relationship with the same sex if you were drunk, curious etc. But some people think it just means the same as Heteroromantic Bisexual.
And then, of course, there are the small minded people who say that they both are just closeted versions on Bisexual.
Well let me tell you something. It’s not easy for someone to just label themselves something they are uncomfortable with. Yes, they mean you are attracted to both sexes in some way or another, but for some people, Bisexual just doesn’t feel right and probably never will. These categories allow individuals to share who they are without feeling like they are being too general.
In conclusion to this rant: Bisexual is a very unspecific, general term. There are more precise terms like the ones above that make people feel more comfortable.
Anyway, rant over…
So what do you think? Are they the same thing or are they slightly different?
Have a fun life! 🙂
Since coming out to myself as heteroflexible, I have notice that a lot of people are against the term. Some say we’re just biphobic or in denial. We’re not. Heteroflexible means mostly straight. No one is 100% straight or gay. So in other words, everyone is Heteroflexible or Homoflexible.
Another thing that people say about us is that we are bi curious. In a way that is true. But bi curious is kinda like when someone wants to try being in a gay relationship, and after that they chooses who they are. Heteroflexible people know who they are, they are Heteroflexible. And yes, it is a real sexuality.
If we were given the choice to either label ourselves or not, I would choose not to. We are all human and I don’t understand why we should be grouped in a way like this.
Why should we be worried to come out to our loved ones, when it doesn’t even effect them in any way whatsoever.
So in conclusion, Heteroflexible/homoflexible are sexualities, everyone is a little bit of them (if we had to label ourselves).
Sorry that this is such a short post but it had to be said.
Have a fun life! 🙂
Ok ok. So in my last ‘my sexuality’ post, I stated that I am straight. Which, in a way is true. However after much more research, I found out who I truly, truly am.
I am Heteroflexible.
Yeah I know it’s a mouthful. But I really do think that this is who I am. It is basically the verge between straight and bi. From Wikipedia, the definition is:
“Heteroflexibility is a form of a sexual orientation or situational sexual behavior characterized by minimal homosexual activity in an otherwise primarily heterosexual orientation that is considered to distinguish it from bisexuality. It has been characterized as “mostly straight””
So in that case the only other person I ‘know’ who is heteroflexible is my role model, Mr Josh Hutcherson. He also considers himself mostly straight. This makes me feel much more comfortable saying this because a celebrity has come out saying it and has been accepted. So why can’t I do that same.
By calling myself hetroflexable, I am not saying that I agree with labels. I’m only calling myself Heteroflexible if I had to label myself. If not, then I’m human, just like everyone else.
Now for the confusing part:
What do I put if the options are Straight, Bisexual and Gay?
I’m pretty sure this will be my last post about my sexuality. But I’m happy I could share my ‘travels’ with you.
Have a fun life! 🙂
We all have a role model, someone to look up to. It’s great to have one, they keep your hopes high.
Who is my role model? Well for a long time is was YouTubers, people who became famous from doing next to nothing. I still think they are great, hilarious and inspirational. But my role model is someone who most boys wouldn’t think of:
This actor has inspired me. And I mean REALLY inspired me to become an actor, he is just so similar to me. When other actors talk about him, I can’t help but relate. He seems like the kind of person who would be nice to anyone, no matter who they are.
That brings me to the ‘Straight But Not Narrow’ group. This is the group that I have been looking for, a place for the LGBT and straight to join together. Josh Hutcherson is part of the SBNN community and he does a lot! Straight but not narrow basically means an open minded straight person. So to put it simpler- Me. Or another way to put it is- Josh.
(I am trying very hard not to sound like a stalker here)
Of course, Joshs career boosted massively after The Hunger Games. During one of the thousand interviews, Josh stated that he wanted to be Peeta because he can relate to him massively. Umm… So can I…
Most of Hutchersons fans are teenage girls who a kinda creepy of Twitter, ( I mean seriously, why would you call a guy who is a few years older than you ‘Daddy’?) but I am a fan for a different reason, because he is a talented actor who has worked incredibly hard to be where he is today.
Also he likes dogs. I like dogs.
I know it sounds kinda crazy but if there is any way in which someone could get Josh to see this, it would be greatly appreciated. 🙂
Have a fun life! 🙂
It’s been a while, hasn’t it? But I’m still here
I recently finished all of my GCSE’s, it has been the most stressful time in my life!
But I now have 2 1/2 months to relax…
So what should I do? I’m not the socialable type so I don’t go out very much. But what I would like… Is a partner…
I’m 16 and I still haven’t had a girlfriend. For some people this may seem normal, but I want to have a ‘partner in crime’, someone who is my best friend as well as my lover. (This must sound so cringey).
I am extremely picky when it comes to the perfect match. I don’t 100% know what my ideal partner would look like. I’m not into the show off girls who paint themselves in make up. I want to be with someone who is naturally a piece of art. (More cringe!)
I have had crushes on girls at school, but I have eventually gotten bored. However there is one girl who has caught my eye. She is pretty, she has my sense of humour, she isn’t a show off, she’s intelligent. Most of my boxes have been ticked. But there is one in particular that remains empty:
She is too popular for me…
In my last post, I expressed how much I hate being shy, and here is another reason. I cannot talk to the girl I have a crush on.
I keep trying to force myself to start talking to her on social media, but I don’t think I am her type. She has a huge crush on another boy in my year. He is tall, confident, naughty, boastful and charming… The complete opposite of me.
But I shall not let this ruin my summer!
Let me know if you are stuck in the same sticky situation as myself.
Have a fun life! 🙂
I hate being shy…
Ok, so everyone who knows me will know that I am super shy. It takes about a year for me to talk to someone like a normal human being, and that is only if I see them regularly. But there are lots of people who I know that I wish I could talk to without feeling awkward or uncomfortable.
Sometimes, I have a funny comment that I know everyone would appreciate if I said it, but because I am shy, I keep it in my head and no one will ever hear it. Once more, if I force myself to say something, I usually say it too quietly or quickly so that no one will hear and they fun is lost. If I wasn’t shy, I think I would feel a lot more welcome into the world. At the moment, I feel like I’m trapped in my own cage and the only person who notices all my emotions is me. I’m not saying that people are ignoring me; I’m saying I don’t have the courage to share my thoughts and feelings with others.
During some classes at school, people notice me listening in to other people’s conversations, and when they say something funny I laugh to myself. Then people would ask, “Why are you laughing?”. It’s because I am trying to get involved in others peoples conversations, and maybe, just maybe, they might notice and welcome me to join in.
I feel comfortable with the people I hang around with at school, mainly because they have been though the pain that I feel. And I can join in to any of there conversations without seeming nosey or rude.
Because of my shyness, I spend a lot of my time wearing headphones, so that I don’t have to embarrass myself in front of any of my family. I feel close to the people who I watch on YouTube as they are also shy and occasionally feel awkward. I see them as family members, or friends who – if I ever met – I could share all my problems with, and they would understand.
I feel as if I am constantly repeating myself here, but I see it as the hardest obstacle to overcome in my life. People say that shyness is a disability, which I think is right. I feel like being shy cuts a huge chunk out of my personality. If you asked my mum, brother or sister how I act at home, you would be quite surprised. I am probably still the quietest at home, but I am bubbly, happy and quite random at times, (like yesterday, when I said my favourite word was “browse”).
At school, I talk to myself constantly in my head. The things I say to myself people would usually say to their friends, but I don’t feel close to anyone at school to share my opinions, I’ve often attempted sharing my opinions, but I made the wrong decision and the person I told would spread it like crazy.
That’s why no one really knows much about me.
To overcome my shyness, I joined a theatre group, I have kept this a secret since June 2013. No one at school knows about this because I knew that if I told someone, they would make fun of me, or tell someone else and they would make fun of me. I feel more at home there, all the people are friendly and silly. But I am still known as ‘one of the quiet ones’ and I can’t help that. When I go for auditions, I try to sing, but I can’t. I can’t even sing in front of my mum without feel awkward. This hurts because I know I am decent singer, and would getter better parts if I was less shy.
One of the most painful parts of being shy is the fact I can’t even talk to my Dad normally.
When I start college, I am going to try and change. Try and talk to everyone like I have known them for years. But I know that it will be super challenging and people that I have known for years may drift away from the confident version of me.
I’m sorry this is so depressing but I hope that there is someone out there who understands this and doesn’t think ‘just shape up’.
Have a fun life! 🙂
BEFORE YOU READ THIS. PLEASE READ MY SEXUALITY FIRST. THANKS.
I’ve done some research since the last sexuality post and I have finally, 100% realised the truth to who I really am.
I am straight.
I know I said before that I have sexual thoughts about guys, but I realised that most guys do that and that it’s a natural thing. I finally feel confident with calling myself straight.
I felt 98% okay calling myself gender neutral, but i knew people would get the wrong idea if I told them.
I’m just glad I’m not the only one in this boat of emotions.
I’m sorry this post is shorter but I just wanted to put it out there that I am straight and confident to be straight.
Have a fun life! 🙂